Two days ago I got my reminder from Amazon they were sending my royalty check for my books. I’ve gotten so used to the email that I don’t check the payout tab weekly any longer. I’m not selling thousands of books a month, but the check still gets deposited on time. I was moving some items to an external drive and some of those were the templates I used for the books I’ve written so far. When I looked at the dates I realized just how long its been and it inspired my to type again.
The result is that quite possibly by tomorrow night the next title will be LIVE. I will be doing something a little DIFFEERNT this time with the work and I am excited to see what the results will be.
I am sharing the introduction today, enjoy!
In May of 2022 the relationship I’d moved 3000 miles to continue ended abruptly. The ripple effects of the breakup still impact me. I thought that I’d done everything ‘right’ this time, yet I found myself suddenly single, in a new state, new city with no support system. In the weeks after the break up I found myself questioning every moment of the years before. This man wasn’t some stranger! We’d been friends for over a decade. We were lovers since 2013. How did this happen? What did I miss? My prior romantic history taught me to not rush. I’d learned the lessons, or so I thought. I asked all the right questions. I didn’t just take the answers as truth, I also watched the actions after those answers. At every step of the relocation process I checked in with him. “Are you sure” was my inquiry, “yes” was his response. He even joined the lease at my new apartment. May 7 still happened though. This story is about the healing process after a break up with a person who uses narcissistic behaviors. I don’t have the credentials to diagnose narcissism, but the behaviors are not exclusive to those with said diagnosis. Healing can happen. My hope for the reader is that my story combined with the tools contained in this volume either assist you with your own healing process, or even better allow you to bypass the relationship all together. While I experienced these behaviors with a former intimate partner, these behaviors are not limited to those you sleep with. It might be a sibling, a ‘friend’, a parent who inflicts the damage. Unpacking the trauma can feel overwhelming, but I am here as your assistant to make the load you carry lighter. On the other side of your bridge there is a healthy, stable, lovable you waiting to re-enter the world. So let’s begin shall we?