Is there something thinner than the blade of a razor? Besides my patience?
I opted to dedicate the month to #SAAM because of how strongly I feel about the topic. I was in a conversation today with the boyfriend and the girlfriend and I found myself saying something that I often do: someone has to do it.
One of the hardest things to address when discussing sexual assault and its impact on a victim is how telling the story and being met with disbelief harms you just as much as the actual violation.
The first time I had a hand “around” my throat during sex, it wasn’t a choke. He was holding me down, gaining leverage, and doing what he had to do to keep me where I was so he could keep hitting ‘that spot’. He was not squeezing, he was not trying to cut off my air. I realized that I liked having his hand there, so much so, that I kept trying to rise up and put my neck into his grasp.
That partner and I eventually graduated to choking, but it took some time.
What’s the big deal anyhow?
I mean seriously, what is the big deal?
One of the things that’s always bothered me in the history of the world, or my world at least, is this concept that a woman untouched is some prize worth capturing and imposing a value on a woman based on her vagina frequent flyer miles – or absence there of.
If we don’t tell our children the truth, are we really protecting them?
photographer – Ben Margot Associated Press retrieved from philly.com
It is both simple and complex at the same time. The bottom line though across all spectrums DeSean Jackson ain’t about that life.
Black Woman Voting – Getty Images – Retrieved from essence.com
We don’t define women in the same way that we do men. It is a problem and we need to alter that.
One part of changing the conversation involves de-mystifying sex and sexuality. Letting go of antiquated ideas that value a woman based on her “vagina miles” can go a long way towards valuing the human being the total woman is – and not just the vagina she happens to be sitting on at the moment.
The month of April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
Retrieved from nsvrc.org:
“The month of April has been designated Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) in the United States. The goal of SAAM is to raise public awareness about sexual violence and to educate communities and individuals on how to prevent sexual violence.
By working together and pooling our resources during the month of April, we can highlight sexual violence as a major public health, human rights and social justice issue and reinforce the need for prevention efforts.”
For the month of April I will be telling my story, and your story. It is time to talk about it. There will be multiple blogs dealing with:
- The 2014 SAAM campaign designed to help young people develop a healthy sexual attitude
- Stories of victims of sexual abuse and assault
- Changing the conversations that surround sexual abuse and assault
- Sharing the vizion that women especially – are no longer blamed for their victimization
Please join me