Seismic Shift


Hello my name is Nicole and I am a size queen.  I haven’t always been, nope not at all.  The man that I was engaged to marry stood @ a whopping 3.7 inches fully erect.  Yeah, I have not always been a size queen.

The funny thing about not being a size queen?  With the exception of that one partner in my sexual history (which is fairly diverse and long) I’ve not had sex with a man who was less than 8″. (well there was this one guy a couple of summers ago, he wasn’t QUITE 8″ but he wasn’t less than 4″ either)  I would say that 85% of them were in the 9.5 or better category.  Of course the ex fiance just flat out ruins the curve, but I can safely say that I’ve had my share of large penis.

I stumbled upon sex shortly after I turned 18 with Kevin who was 10″ if he was an inch.  Losing your virginity to a larger penis, if he is not a considerate penis is hell – I’ve heard.  Even back then though I had an affinity for sex and things sex related, and I did not have the issues that my girlfriends had.  My first time didn’t hurt *files nails*.  Then again not only do I seem to have the ability to attract larger penis, I have the ability to attract considerate penis.

I got to thinking about penis size during a flirty exchange with someone who I am sure if I let him whip it out would be the biggest in a line of not so smalls.  That exchange got me to thinking a bit more about the phrase:  Size Doesn’t Matter.


Size matters to men.  Ever hear a man brag on his little penis? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

Size matters to women.  I keep hearing about all of these studies that talk about how women say that size doesn’t matter.


Those studies are done by men with small penis that want to make themselves feel better.

But Nicole size doesn’t matter!!!!  For real?  If it does not where are all of my sisters yelling: “Send me all of the small dick you can find!”.

Now as a woman?  If I am given the choice between a 6″ man who eats pussy well, uses toys well, and is concerned with my sexual health and my orgasm OR a 11″ man who comes in under 70 strokes and has no hip action?  I will take door #1.

I’ve had both, so I can speak from experience.  Thank you Mr Couple of Summers ago.

If a woman tells you that your penis size does not matter, what she is actually saying is:  I will overlook your 7″ penis if you do lots of other things correctly.

This idea that size doesn’t matter to women is more of a reflection that we are willing to take the total package over just one cosmetic item on the package.  It’s why older balding and poochy middle aged men can walk out of the house with a 25 year old supermodel.  Heidi Klum can fall in love with Seal because the total package is greater than the one item.

It is also men with small penis attempting to feel better about themselves.

If you Google:  does penis size matter, the top responses are from magazines like Men’s Health.   They swear forever and a day that to women penis size is not important.

Yet, when you hit page two where you find your first response from a ‘womans magazine’ Cosmopolitan the answer actually is:  most women say they are SATISFIED with the penis size of their partner.  That doesn’t mean size doesn’t matter – it means that she is not going to say bye to an otherwise good man because he is not slingin like Sean Michaels.

Men want size not to matter to women, but it does.

Now…not every woman will be a size queen like myself, but 3.7″ is not going to win many marathons.

Well Nicole if size does matter why don’t women say that it does!

Good fucking question.

I think for some of us it is about our inability to let loose and experience sexual freedom in a positive way.  I mean how do you say, if given the choice I want the big penis without sounding like a “slut”?

Another part of it is us not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings.  I never told the 3.7 man that he had a small penis.  I mean I kind of didn’t have to……but  I knew if I ever said gee honey you have a small penis it would have hurt his feelings.

Another part of it is that some women desire to have a man, and are unwilling to do or say anything that will chase the man that they have away.
Then you have women like me…who say yes size matters, but well size matters.

Women if we start telling the truth about our sexuality, we will get better sex.

Allow me to repeat that:

If we start to tell the truth about our sexuality, we will get better sex.

The first step is to be willing to talk frankly about our needs, our desires, our fantasies.

It is not productive to say: size doesn’t matter, when you know that it does.
It is not productive to say: its okay that I didn’t have an orgasm, when it is not.

If we keep allowing the myth that size doesn’t matter to move along unchecked we are continuing the practice of women having unsatisfying sex, and in all reality preventing men from growing to their potential to be better lovers as well.

Ladies as long as we keep lying …. we are all losing.

About Aphrodite Brown

Aphrodite Brown is the owner and creator of Vizionz from the Bottom. Vizionz is a life and culture blog covering all aspects of life from pop culture, to politics, to parenting, with an extra heavy dose of alternative lifestyle & sex positive living.
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